The Worst Things Nigerians Have Been Told in Their Marriages

Sometimes, it only takes one sentence to make you question everything you thought you knew about your marriage. We asked Nigerians to share the things their partners said that made them realise their marriages might not work.

“There’s no way you don’t also have a problem”

He said this even after doctors confirmed that his infertility was why we were childless. — Bunmi*, 38

“What did I do that your father hasn’t done?”

He said, when I confronted him about repeatedly cheating on me — Queen*, 41

“Your money is ours, but mine is mine. That’s your headache.”

She said, when I was struggling with debt and asked for her support. — Umar*, 39

“I haven’t made it because of you.”

He screamed at me and the kids after I reported his betting addiction to his family. — Joy* 34

“I should leave my friends for a man I met which day?”

She texted this when I complained about her not spending time with me shortly after our engagement. In the end, she cheated with one of them. — James*, 30

“I will definitely pick my mum.”

My husband didn’t hesitate during a games night with other couples, when asked which of us he would save first. — Faiza*, 32

“When I asked for a wife, God’s plan for me turned out to be ‘what I ordered versus what I got.’”

He makes such ‘jokes’ while counseling younger people. — Mary*, 46

“Why can’t he just pass away and let everybody rest?”

She said, when we heard my only brother’s brain tumour grew back shortly after surgery. — Shola*, 37

“I’m sure it’ll be disgusting. I don’t want to be there.”

I was going into labour, but he didn’t want to “throw up”. — Esther*, 27

“I have her mumu button. She won’t leave.”

I overheard him telling his friends this after I forgave him for being physically abusive and he begged me to stay. — Favour* 29

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