Sex Talk: Give her something to work with
“A marriage’s happiness is in the husband’s hands, not the wife’s. A wife is naturally built to respond, to multiply.” – Anonymous. I read that somewhere weeks ago, and I have been mulling over it, and the more I think of it, the more it makes many things make perfect sense. Like, if you give […] The post Sex Talk: Give her something to work with appeared first on The Observer Media Ltd.
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“A marriage’s happiness is in the husband’s hands, not the wife’s. A wife is naturally built to respond, to multiply.” – Anonymous.
I read that somewhere weeks ago, and I have been mulling over it, and the more I think of it, the more it makes many things make perfect sense. Like, if you give your wife love, affirmation, admiration, she will work with that and multiply it to return to you happiness in the union.
Give her coldness, ingratitude, constant heartache or even abuse and assault, and that is what your marriage will signal: toxicity, hen-pecking, insecurity, evil methods to ‘tame you’, etc.
She will multiply whatever you give her; so, you had better give her something to work with! Let us go into the physicality of the marriage. The sex. Don’t complain that your wife just lies there like a log and is not enjoyable when you make love with her.
‘Anonymous’ has told you: a wife is naturally built to respond, to multiply. You want her to jump and yelp, clutching her toe when she has not stabbed it against anything? When she feels nothing, don’t berate her for failing to scratch where there is no itch. O
f course, many wives have mastered the art of fanning their husbands’ egos for this very reason; they would sooner fake the orgasm and get it done with, than be accused of not being ‘good at responding’.
Bring your wife joy and pink elephants in bed, and watch her take that and multiply the intensity of your own orgasm! Leave her no room to turn into a police detective out of boredom… Because, when someone is busy riding wave after wave of a beautiful orgasm, how can she be coherent enough to start interrogating you about “when will you deposit the children’s school fees?” “Who is Nankya?” “Who taught you how to do that ka-thing you are doing to me?”
Hmmm; just know, you are not giving her enough to work with, so she is sourcing elsewhere. You can love all those questions straight out of her head and even afterwards, because of how good you are at what you do, she just trusts you on all the would-be uncomfortable questions she usually asks at crunch time.
Financially…do you even need reminding? Let me just say that for all the long-lasting happy marriages that I know, personally – thirty years and above – the husbands in those relationships are also quite generous to their wives and family, and I have seen this evoke the fiercest loyalty, love and submission from the wives, not to mention how prosperous those couples also are.
In fact, one of the husbands believes that when he is not in good books with his wife (because they are feuding, going through a marital cold war, or similar) his finances and projects also take a hit.
No, the wife is not a witch; she is simply responding to and multiplying what she has been handed, and the universe is watching keenly.
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